tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post6241333823305524628..comments2023-10-19T11:26:13.754+01:00Comments on Bump2Basics: Random Musings From an American Mom in London: Unhappy SlappyllTanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.blogger.com/profile/11190613569079236305noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-20018969322552541392011-06-14T10:48:05.127+01:002011-06-14T10:48:05.127+01:00Oh poor you, maybe those teeth are the root of all...Oh poor you, maybe those teeth are the root of all the clamping?! Thanks for the advice, I agree it is not helpful to engage the frustrated behaviorTanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-47540869972374059182011-06-14T10:46:24.550+01:002011-06-14T10:46:24.550+01:00I am hoping it is too a phase that will pass (soon...I am hoping it is too a phase that will pass (soon please). Thanks for the book recs, I will check outTanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-42776566237601518962011-06-14T10:42:41.899+01:002011-06-14T10:42:41.899+01:00Ahhh repetition....the story of our lives at the m...Ahhh repetition....the story of our lives at the mo, huh? I will soldier on, and try to focus on converting negatives to positives, as MWA suggests...Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-45726817556717289332011-06-14T10:41:26.634+01:002011-06-14T10:41:26.634+01:00Positive reinforcement - I really like this, thank...Positive reinforcement - I really like this, thanks MWA! Yesterday when LLC kept taking off her shoes in town, I just kept telling her how lovely they look on her feet and how important it is to have them support and protect her feet when she is walking about.Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-4675701897042489402011-06-13T11:57:18.789+01:002011-06-13T11:57:18.789+01:00We've got a biting thing going on at the momen...We've got a biting thing going on at the moment. The 10-month old suddenly clamps down on a shoulder when he's being carried, and it is very painful because he now has two teeth on the top and three on the bottom. The hitting other children thing sounds classic frustration/attention. Move her away and don't make eye contact if she hits someone else, and try and distract her if she hits herself. Good luck - both easier said than done. angelsandurchinsbloghttp://www.angelsandurchins.co.uk/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-51874123287928663752011-06-13T10:14:23.067+01:002011-06-13T10:14:23.067+01:00Bigger used to slap and has grown out of it and fo...Bigger used to slap and has grown out of it and fortunately Littler seems to be getting past the phase<br /><br />We have a zero tolerance on slapping so its 'no' and then distract or distance if they do it<br />We also found the book Hands Are Not For Hitting good (they also do a teeth are not for biting one)Muddling Alonghttp://www.muddlingalongmummy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-21415969506943311602011-06-12T06:08:58.714+01:002011-06-12T06:08:58.714+01:00Unfortunately I don't have any useful advice. ...Unfortunately I don't have any useful advice. Piran gets a bit spiteful when tired and hits out but I don't do too much about it as I know he only does it when he is worn out. I will have to watch him around Kate though. I think repetition is best, just keep telling her that you don't like it.Kelly_A place of my ownhttp://youfoundkelshidingplace.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-58965208236433738972011-06-10T23:20:43.625+01:002011-06-10T23:20:43.625+01:00I'm still intermittently having trouble with t...I'm still intermittently having trouble with this with my 6 and 3 year olds, so I'm not sure I'm any use, but I did read on Ms. Moon's blog that her daughter teaches her little son not to slap by taking his hand when he does it and using it to stroke the slapped person instead, saying something like "nice" or similar. I think that makes a lot of sense, as substituting something positive tends to work much better with children than saying what not to do. (The theory being that if you say "Don't hit" they hear the word "hit" and that is the message. If you say "be nice" then the concept of hitting is not around any more. This really works well when you want children to eat or play nicely. If you say "Don't play with your food" I have found you will basically put the idea into their heads. If you say "Use your fork properly" they're much more likely to respond well.)<br /><br />Sorry - very long comment but hey I feel passionately about these things. :-)<br /><br />Oh, and of course from roughly this age you can start with little time-outs which also work wonders, as long as you are consistent.<br /><br />Good luck!Mwa (from Lost in Translation)noreply@blogger.com