tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post2901016704466280270..comments2023-10-19T11:26:13.754+01:00Comments on Bump2Basics: Random Musings From an American Mom in London: When Pound Affects Preference: The Rise of One-Child Households in the UKTanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.blogger.com/profile/11190613569079236305noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-51310811053033330062011-06-08T09:56:52.536+01:002011-06-08T09:56:52.536+01:00First of all, thanks for the data, this is somethi...First of all, thanks for the data, this is something I want to start drilling on (especially due to our circumstances), how large families are these days. I am thinking of putting a poll on my blog though I don't think it would be statistically relevant (how many people responding is needed to make it relevant? Probably 3 years of traffic :) ). <br />We always wanted to get 2 children and dabbled with the idea of 3 for awhile. We always thought that if nbr3 was to turn up, we would love her/him but that life with 2 was actually great. Lo and behold, nbr 3 surprised us and turned up. Was a shock at first (well, still is to be honest...) but we find it to bring a real balance in the family, especially as we got lucky to get a little girl after 2 boys. Clearly, we are a minority (hence keen to see how much a minority we are) and it's really weird to see that two couples we know are in the same situation: nbr 3 is a surprised... Sacrifices, there will be plenty for sure, especially as they grow up (weekends? what weekends? How yeah, that time continuum when we ferry children between sports and other activities?). But a lot of fun along the way.<br /><br />PS: Glad to see I wasn't the only wondering when I read jen's recent blog post on "bringing a third party"Deja Porterhttp://www.dejaporter.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-56401158263419696122011-03-27T00:13:56.599+00:002011-03-27T00:13:56.599+00:00Really true, and when faced with these unexpected ...Really true, and when faced with these unexpected things we just get on with it. I suppose if you are genuinely ready to have another you are also ready to deal with "what may."Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-47485339274926640142011-03-27T00:11:19.778+00:002011-03-27T00:11:19.778+00:00Yea, I bet trying to hover over several kids would...Yea, I bet trying to hover over several kids would make the wreak havoc with the mind! But even where easier to hover I still think parents should resist the urge for the good of everyone.Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-2918515632361387622011-03-27T00:10:39.024+00:002011-03-27T00:10:39.024+00:00Yea, I bet trying to hover over several kids would...Yea, I bet trying to hover over several kids would make the wreak havoc with the mind! But even where easier to hover I still think parents should resist the urge for the good of everyone.Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-52240100401314292522011-03-27T00:04:21.403+00:002011-03-27T00:04:21.403+00:00Yeah, that makes sense. I say bring on the inconv...Yeah, that makes sense. I say bring on the inconvenience! (Though you may need to remind me of that at a later date)Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-44636846328989545582011-03-27T00:02:12.760+00:002011-03-27T00:02:12.760+00:00Probably not on the TV.
I think you are right; i...Probably not on the TV. <br /><br />I think you are right; if your heart you are ready for another you've got there for a reason and you go for it.Tanya (Bump2Basics)http://www.chatty-t.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-48629494408953406852011-03-26T15:24:45.076+00:002011-03-26T15:24:45.076+00:00I don't think anyone, unless they are well-off...I don't think anyone, unless they are well-off, can consider themselves financially secure to have a baby, whether it be their first, second, third etc. The cost of raising children these days is astronomical and however much we plan, there will always be a hidden extra somewhere.<br /><br />When my daughter was diagnosed with autism, I had to start applying for carer's allowance and disability living allowance to help us with costs. It was a battle but we got there. If these benefits hadn't been available, we would surely struggle.<br /><br />CJ xxCrystal Jigsawnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-40648458188130409002011-03-25T14:08:31.586+00:002011-03-25T14:08:31.586+00:00On the helicopter parenting bit, the reason it is ...On the helicopter parenting bit, the reason it is more common with one child is not just the increased precious-ness of that child, but also because you really can't helicopter parent after 2 kids. One it is too easy to hoover. Two, you will do nothing else. By three kids, you realize that you simply can't hover over them all of the time. If you go for 4, well by then you are throughly disabused of the notion to try and can clearly see the mistakes with your first children if you had tried hovering--or the successes if you didn't.AHLondonhttp://americanhousewifeinlondon.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-56554581825637738002011-03-24T10:05:02.404+00:002011-03-24T10:05:02.404+00:00I don't really think it's a finance thing ...I don't really think it's a finance thing either. I do think there's a lot of emphasis on "free" lifestyles and that a lot of people buy into that. They think they're not living a good life if they don't jet off at a moment's notice, or have all the gadgets. And obviously that's all easier with one kid than with many. It may just be convenience. One child is so much easier to transport and control. Three definitely not so much. :-)Mwa (from Lost in Translation)http://mwaonline.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1195788236766051950.post-30339901774223460892011-03-24T00:17:23.517+00:002011-03-24T00:17:23.517+00:00I can't really believe anyone would choose a f...I can't really believe anyone would choose a flatscreen TV over a second child, if they really wanted a second child. (And speaking as someone who was in a TV shop at the weekend, can you even buy the old fashioned box kind now?). I think most people know in their heart of hearts whether they really want a second - and if they do, they will find a way to make it work.Nappyvalleygirlnoreply@blogger.com